Two bits of big time news have been announced today.
1. The San Francisco Supreme Court has struck down the gay marriage ban. Remember when Gavin Newsom first came in as mayor and let all those gay and lesbian lovers get married at City Hall? The man may be a womanizer guilty of pretending to “go down” on a microphone on camera, but he’s really just a free spirited lover of the world, bringing to the forefront something at the heart of a lot of San Franciscans. He’s also a Santa Clara grad and I saw him being interviewed at BART once, hollah.
I’m so happy for the news. I debated adoption for same-sex couples in a speech class and was confronted with my first firsthand account of gay-hating. I really should have expected it, having attended a Catholic institution, but I was naive and surprised by some of their unfounded reactions. Obviously their disdain for same-sex adoption was rooted in their disdain for same-sex coupling, and there simply was no way to cut through their deeply entrenched taught values.
When you grow your values from your heart instead of giving in to whatever the majority around you says (which, notably, often requires proactive “unlearning” of internalized social norms and beliefs) I think you’ll find that letting anybody couple with whoever they want is the most normal, natural, and fulfilling. Marriage in itself is an arbitrary thing, “just a title,” as they say. But since it holds so much value in society today, it ought to be a title available to whoever actively seeks it. The biological “who” doesn’t matter.
I have always told myself that if someone actually wants to marry me (Poor louse.), they would at least have to consider waiting to legally wed until same-sex couples are warranted the same opportunity. If he dismissed my proposal to boycott historically discriminatory exclusive proposals, I’d have to seriously rethink the relationship. I have friends who don’t understand how I’d prioritize such a principle over love, but in this case, I think if it’s for the greater good, the relationship can take the backseat.
With San Francisco’s recent decision and the support of similar states throughout the U.S., maybe we’re getting somewhere closer to letting “Uncle Frank and Aunt Jack” be the celebrated couple they want to be.
2. Lori Drew was indicted for bullying on MySpace. My primary response: Most people over 30 should not be toolin’ around on “the Internet,” specifically with “social networks.” (‘Course, she seemed like a bitch anyway.)
The Maykazine 
Since when do we need permission from the government to marry? Since the 1920’s when the marriage licenses were created. Before that, your priest/pastor would sign the marriage certificate and that was that. It was ok for white people to marry white people and black people to marry black people, but when black people wanted to marry white people, the government had to step in and say, “oh no no, you can’t do that. You need a marriage license.”
Just like a dog license or a fishing license. You need permission from the government if you want to marry the person you love. In my opinion that is a load of bullshit. Unfortunately, today, nobody thinks about that. People actually encourage the government to step into our own, private affairs. Now marriages are just about taxes. Sometimes, that stupid piece of paper is what keeps couples together, even though they can’t stand each other. And it prevents people who truly love each other from being considered “officially” married.
I don’t want a menage a trois with the government, so I’m never getting a marriage license. They have no business to poke their noses in my family.
Interesting that you took my post to mean “A bond isn’t a bond/worth a bond unless it’s legally recognized.”
yea Mayka, sorry to revisit so tardy — I just finished spring term and I should be around (I think). And you are right, I did have a gallery of images but I took them down some time ago. I am working on a rough cut of an image montage that I can show you soon! best